Yes, I have questions about this too. My P disappeared without warning at the end of last year (no warning) then started contacting me again over March and April, begging for my forgiveness and wanting to buy me a ticket to bring me over to Europe to be with him. At the time I didn't know he was a P. We spent many hours chatting online, we were getting close again, then I had the call from his ex employer and friend revealing who he really was, and all the lies he had told. The first thing I did was to send a short reply to his last, loving email saying 'its over. I know who you really are. I know about the other woman..and a few other choice words I cant recall. That was before I knew about P's and going NC.
Anyway, so far, in 3 weeks he has not replied. I got very anxious at the start of this week wondering if he was really in Europe at all, or if he might return to NZ, or take some kind of revenge on me. Knowing how psychologically unwell he is, I would have no idea what to expect. His ex employer said something about 'he might want to kill us, now we know it all' but I don't know if she was just joking. We also surmised it would be unlikely he would try and return here since he has so many bad debts and so many angry people after him. I do wonder if he has even read that last email I sent, and if he will just brush it off or if he will ever try to make contact again. He could always weevil his way back in the past, because I didnt know the truth about him. This time he has been totally sprung.. there is nothing he can possibly say to excuse himself and no pity card he can possibly pull to explain what he has done. The mask has come off.
I wonder if we do have to stay vigilant forever too?